High conflict divorce coachingFor a separation that turns every step into a fight.
A high conflict divorce doesn't move in a straight line. Agreements get reopened. Simple logistics become accusations. You spend more energy managing the process than living your life.
I wrote I'm Done: Take Control of Your High Conflict Divorce because most divorce advice assumes two reasonable people. When that isn't the situation, you need a different strategy — and someone who has seen this pattern hundreds of times.
What brings people here
- Every email turns into a new dispute.
- You've been accused of things you didn't do and don't know how to respond.
- Your legal costs are climbing and nothing is getting resolved.
- You second-guess every message before you send it.
- You want to stop reacting and start deciding.
- You need to protect your kids from the middle of it.
What one hour can do
We look at what's actually happening: the pattern, the pressure points, and where your own moves keep the cycle alive. Then we work out what's worth responding to and what isn't. You don't have to accept every fight you're invited to.
For messages that do need sending, we use Disengage, Decide, Deliver — step back, decide whether a response is needed, then respond in language that has the best chance of being heard.
Alongside your lawyer, not instead of them
This isn't legal advice and it isn't therapy. It's thinking room. Many people use a walk between meetings with their lawyer, so they arrive clearer and spend less billable time working out what they want.
Every conversation happens on the walk — in person or by phone. Nothing is recorded and nothing is documented. I don't write reports for legal matters, testify, or communicate with third parties. This is a private thinking conversation — not therapy, not counselling, not legal advice.
The format
One hour, walking, in Calgary — or the same hour walking by phone from anywhere. Optional personal follow-up letter afterward. For a separation that unfolds over months, Private Access gives you ongoing access by private video message.
Questions people ask
What is a high conflict divorce coach?
Someone who helps you make decisions and handle communication when the other person escalates. Andrea LaRochelle is a former Registered Family Mediator and author of I'm Done: Take Control of Your High Conflict Divorce. She works one-on-one, privately, and doesn't participate in legal matters.
Can you help if I'm not in Calgary?
Yes. The same one-hour conversation happens walking by phone — you walk where you are, Andrea walks where she is.
Will anything I say be used in my case?
No. Every conversation happens on the walk. Nothing is recorded or documented, Andrea does not write letters for legal purposes, testify or communicate with third parties.
Ready to talk?
One hour. $175. In person in Calgary, or walking by phone from anywhere. Optional personal follow-up letter afterward for $100.